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Rolling with a 2020 wedding

Uncategorised Posted on Mon, September 28, 2020 17:59:56

Micro weddings and keeping safe – what’s the take away?

Legal date 23.3.20

So if you follow me or my blog you’ll know we legally tied just hours before lockdown, 4 guests, no reception- feeling lucky, happy , weird and wonderful but honestly… guestless and going straight into lockdown is no brides idea of a honeymoon- our “big” day cancelled and personal circumstances meant it was an extremely tough time for us, we mostly worked .

Thankfully me and tom have never been far off the same page , we knew what we wanted and that was to FEEL married, that to us was to have the vows and celebration we planned- we knew 2020 wouldn’t allow that so we had a choice ; a choice every 2020 couple faces

  1. Wait
  2. Compromise

When discussing it became clear that waiting was a compromise, you may not have the same people, you may put off buying a home, car , having kids , making buisness plans or that extra long honeymoon to once again… get married.

I felt the anxiety over the news, worrys over having to diet over the next year to fit into my dress and panic of never really enjoying anyone elses happiness getting married; because I may never get my “proper” day ; and I knew.

There was no compromise

What I was “giving up” I could rebook in a few years, it was just a party, beer and late night dancing I can do later , I needed a day with my family where I could reminisce and say.. “remember when….”

Since we missed all the traditional aspects of a wedding on our first we try to squeeze as many safe ones in we could!

So my brother held our ceremony, he asked us to say “I do” and for our first official kiss as husband and wife infront of our family (27 in the 30 allowance)

We read speeches, my dad , husband and yes… even ME ; since I’m a little bit of a maiden name keeping speech giving girl power kinda bride

We even cut a cake! Since I had just 8 days notice and only 24 hours notice to view the venue I couldnt order one, I brought indervidual £3 cakes from tesco for each table and did a countdown , it stopped sharing and honestly was adorable!


but honestly I now just find it funny! It’s crazy what you panic buy 😝 cakes cake and I’d of been happy with a mini roll at this point 😂

My dad walked me down the aisle in a very unique and safe 2020 way, we decided to roll with it and have a laugh…. using a messuring tape to keep distance down the aisle

And I even had a little dance, now again your not really aloud to dance (oh 2020) so it was just me and tom and in a separate space far more than 6foot away from anyone

We kept everyone safe with social distancing, sanitizer and oodles of space and fresh air,

And okay some of the photo catch you out, I’m never going to look at them and forget why we are not touching ; far a part. But either way its part of your history as a couple

Honestly I’m so so pleased I followed my gut, because the weekend after we would have been completely rained out and the month after our guest list would have been slashed.

And after having 4 guests the first time, I cant tell you how completely nice it was to feel as though we had “guest list!” , people, storys!


IM NOT SURE ITS A ONE PERSON JOB EVEN NOW… but since only tom could come close and it really was to much info 😆🙈

My advice is try sideline you expectations, roll with it and everything becomes a bonus- you soon find all your expectations where met; just differently

If you cant watch the news without crying , you need to discuss your plans 💟 dont live in a year of fear! Please…

We had huge picknic benches , bubbled in family units , bring your own picknic – disposable tableware/ glam? Probably not! I didn’t care a BIT!

This is where your must have list comes in again, my 2 splurges where photographer and dress, and I’m bluddy grateful!



Venue. Long furlong farm venue

How to navigate shopping for a alternative wedding dress.

Uncategorised Posted on Sat, September 26, 2020 18:54:06

What i wish I had been told; what I’m glad I did.

Stunning traditional white dress from a past bride

So you’ve binged on say yes to the dress and your up to your eyeballs in dont tell the bride…. your pintrest is full…. and it’s your time? You may already KNOW if you are a unconventional, alternative or unique bride BEFORE you step foot in the door.

Photo by pink Photographics- jacket sammy Lea retro / from our engagement shoot.


And your the first to potentially want to go rouge?

First off me and mum decided to go shopping just us because she wanted that time and experience ! I planned a second shop with more humans, but she did the same with my sister and I know to many cooks can infact spoil the broth – so I decided on my first peice of advice….

TRY ON EVERYTHING – even if you hate it!

Set a limit on budget and how many (or you will be their all day! ) but go for it!

Why!? Because ….

1) you never know!

2) these shopping experiences dont stay fun forever, drink it up!

3) its HER experience too… allow her to see YOU in the dress SHE envisioned, smile , but she will see you hate it

4) letting her pick traditional dresses and genuinely trying them on with a open mind and enjoying it , not only suprised me but made it so much easier when I fell for a alternative dress

5) it will save the “you didnt even try” potential feeling and heartache, you where tiny once . I’m sure shes would like to see you in a traditional white dress once.. even in a changing room!

So I let my mum pick, and the shop assitant pick

This was a 1920s inspired beaded number
I had absolutely no bum in it 🤣 she was beautiful but not for me! I also hate my back on show after years of bad backs… I like it covered.

I was shocked in all fairness, I’m usually a full circle skirt girl, but I know I’m not a high heal person and this was absolutely screaming for someone bottom heavy who loved high heels…. not me!


I was suprised by this one!

This was by far the most traditional and modern dress I tried on… and I’m glad!

I’m glad the ladys at soar valley bride didnt just get it into my head I didnt suit modern, because look at me go, (not my face hahaha) but again it just wasnt me… I wanted flats, colour , I didnt get that I dont ever want to take you off feeling… I got a … I need suck in pants and those awful strapless bra vibes 🤦🏻‍♀️


I tried on a PROPER princess gown, but oh lord I didnt even make a photo… corsets are the DEVIL and anyone who actually wares one all day needs PAYMENT. My spine… she said… no (my figure said yes)


Mum pulled this one out. She was over budget but mum had a feeling!

It was a stone colour, and the embroidered was just… STUNNING. Obviously I’m very short so excuse the puffy-ness I’m not on my box, but it really did have me raising my eyebrow. ; but again I know mum was right I’d of probably been happy enough in this. But I have to admit I kept wondering what it would have looked liked dip dyed lavender… and that’s when I knew.

Stone wasnt alternative enough for me. – I’d had fun playing dress up! But these hadn’t connected. I wanted to be happy, comfortable and bright! And in my trainers.

My face coming out of the changing room probably sums it up!
She needed straps adding
And buttons
And then she was PERFECT

It wasnt easy picking something outside the “norm” everyone in my family have had whites or “traditional” dresses, I am the FIRST to have colour! And …. it’s not exactly a little 😆



I left my dress behind and went next door for a coffee to “think” and instantly burst into tears at the thought of leaving it. Since it was a one off , and the fabic is now discontinued- I just knew she was fate!

Photo by pink Photographics

I couldnt find any advice online? I knew my husband wouldnt care and would love it! But it’s a big purchase, it’s a BIG DEAL and it’s kinda in every photo, I wondered if I was alone asking – is buying alternative harder… is their more options to worry about? More people to potentially upset? More traditions your ignoring? More oldies to worry about? – and I think, I’m not alone, the fact is its unconventional for a reason! You MAY stand on a toe or two…. but if you love it, and you couldnt leave it without crying –

Its probably worth it.

My grandma practically stops people in the STREET to show people “my amazing dress” (who would have thunk it!)

Photo by

It’s the best thing I have ever got – I’m so glad I had the confidence

Even if I did wobble and cry in a coffee shop 🤣
Photo by

Top tips –

Take a small party, it’s hard enough dont add more options!

Do a small run at a small understanding boutique, support local you’ll be surprised what they have! And they care so much more…. work out what silhouettes work for you and you can always return to buy accessories to thank them even if you dont buy the full dress

Do let your human pick, whoever that is, the one your worried about. Let her SEE you in her vision, dont pout! (In budget!)

Ask the assitant for a pick! They do this all day (in budget)

Have a conversation about your feelings, you are drawn to something unusual, but your minds open. You need support to find what makes you happy, so nobody is left feeling shocked!

If you dont want a veil. Fine! Try one. But it doesnt make you a bride! You choose what makes you a bride. Same with heels, jewelry and a list of other things!

Be you! Enjoy! and alter!

Dont “try” to be anything you’ll know if it’s you or not 💖✌

Dress from soar valley brides in sileby who where Amazing start to Finish! 👏

#alternative #shoppingexerience #weddingdress


Will reusable pads convert me?

Uncategorised Posted on Mon, July 20, 2020 17:38:56

A blog on sanitary pads, how nice!

Well yes; kinda – were girls! We have questions. And I’m going to answer them and let you know if resuable really converted me.

Image from etsy seller –

So let’s start with the cons –

  1. the initial cost, setting up can feel more expensive (it’s not long term) but its having the money to invest!
  2. Washing set up, took me a while to get used to
  3. Drying , your room mate/husband needs to be on board
By Candy cat pin – featured by the eco shop-

The pros –

  • Better for the invoroment
  • Less chemicals and perfumes and plastics on your hu-hah
  • Many women complain less of menstrual cramps using natural products
  • No bathroom bin!
  • Once you sort your washing routine it isnt a faf
  • Much cheaper (once your invested they last and last !)
  • Nice designs and no weird crinkle sounds when you change in public bathrooms
You so pretty, have a brownie.

So what did I find ? They are worth trying the effect women have collectively on landfill is…. horrifying. And it’s a necessity of course! But if women even considered swapping to resuable pads just to sleep in, collectively the effects wed have to plastic that doesnt biodegrade over the span of a year, nevermind from puberty to menopause would actually make a dent !

I found I would recommend reusable pads when sleeping to any woman ideally the winged ones , they dont budge, super absorbent and NO LEAKING! A cheap and easy way to help without it effecting your every day life .

As for all day every day, I have switched! And I dont plan to return, I do have an emergency packet of plastic ones; and I’d use them if needed; but honestly I’ve found a year later they are still unused.

How do you wash them?

Rince with cold water , and pop them in a wash. –

Top tips – having your own small wash bucket to transport rinced pads and a drying octopus (I dont know if that’s what they are called but the thing with pegs on that dry pants and socks! 😆)

Nah, I’m finnnneeeee

It may seem odd to some to blog about periods ! But I’m converted , even if you just try them to sleep in, I cant recommend them enough- you can carry on as normal!

But that’s small choice will make a impact to landfil through your life. (And your p.js will look better! Bonus)

Top tips – if your new to it all

  • Almost all do but make sure yours have poppers to act like wings and secure in place, weirdly they dont move because cloth isnt that slippy
  • Get a darker colourd inset, although the cool water rince you give them (good for blood stains ) wash and dry in the sun does most the work I would always buy black 🤷‍♀️
  • You can get different shapes and strengths, that’s why I’d recommend a small buisness over a internet add they all come from China I was told by the well known online seller! (Paid a fortune too)
  • If your shy and dry inside forget to cool rince them yeah they can stain you can carefully remedy this problem with but easy onthe chemicals!
  • Snug granny pants! Most my friends that tried and failed where using flimsy knickers. Okay in probably jealous you can look or feel nice t this point of the month 😆 but try a proper knicker like the rest of us loosers (your making us look bad )

So since my blog is mainly found for bridal advice I suppose the main question is would I were one for my wedding day?

Well…. no. I couldnt rince on my big day .

I’d happily ware one to work or any other day (and have for well over a year!)

But for bridal advice – I’d look into period pants as a back up and use conventional pads knowing I’ve a fail safe

Then continue with reusable! 😘

Hope that helps and answers all your questions! –

Lauren from

Bridal hair artistry from the East Midlands

What its actually like to get married in a pandemic

Uncategorised Posted on Wed, March 25, 2020 09:04:03

And wake up in lockdown……

Photography by pink Photographics

So i want to start by saying if you dont follow me on social media , we did have to heartbreakingly cancel our wedding (that’s the big celebration with the guests and the dress and cake and the dance!) We where obviously gutted, but knew we had to see we are so lucky that the legal peice we had planned had a very small hope of the go ahead.


and brides need love right now!
In the car I still couldn’t believe it was going to happen! I can see I’m tence

So , to minimize risk I stayed with Tom the night before, we actually watched the inbetweeners movie and got ready together; I wanted to use my own towels and bedding and not put that pressure on my mum, although I’m taking my temperature every day (this calms my anxiety I may pass something along!) It just felt better to social distance wedding day or not (plus me and tom would be sharing a kiss later anyway!)

I didnt sleep much! And I couldn’t even dare to watch the news or check my feed.

I was scared boris would call it!

But I was dropped at my mums to put on my dress! – hand washing upon arrival, I took my own flask and food and we stayed opposite sides of the room, the atmosphere was 100% different; if the topic moved away for even a second. …… it soon came crashing back to reality.

The topic was one thing only…… covid

We tried and failed to change it. In the end I had to roll with it and try laughing with it .

It was small things, after YEARS of pampering brides doing hair seeing makeup artists, I ironically ended up doing my own and having non! I seemed to have 7 seconds and 13 grips . What a hairdresser fail. It was a odd day , I didnt care!

I had a important stop to make before I could say I do….

And emotional stop off to my grandpa and granny!

Tears everywhere! Theres a photo that broke the photographer to edit, me to receive and I’m not even sure I can post online … it may break you too!

Learning to laugh with it

We headed to the registry office, dettoling hands , cars, ticket machines and keeping our distance, it was a pain taking separate cars, but made sense to stay in family units where possible.

Not issues I ever thought I’d have to think about, I didnt think I’d be hand sanitizing during my interview, so worried they may take it away I forgot Tom’s birthday and my dads job 🤦‍♀️ I just couldn’t concentrate, it felt like a gag almost, to good to be true!


A photo from my mums phone

The actual ceremony was so heightened. I cried the intire time! No seriously, my photographer is already laughing at what photos she can give me … I just felt like I was floating, I was so happy but even the hour before it could be taken away from me , so I just remember thinking it may be stopped , and then I realised it wasnt going to be…. wed made it! And that made me cry more! 🤦‍♀️😭❤

My poor photographer, my poor makeup!



With 4 guests the photos didnt take long, we took our photographer and set out for some photos just us * I’ll share more soon.

It was odd to just end the wedding, but with nothing open, and no kissy or cuddly photos!? What else is their. . .

No snuggles for this bride

So off we went, we went to Quorn because that’s where me and Tom had our first date and although we couldn’t go to the pub we had our first date we could go the the park that was close


Me cleaning a bench on my wedding day!

After dettoling a empty park bench, our first “meal” was jammy Dodgers and non alcoholic beer from latex gloved hands , the park was basically empty, there was a couple who kept there distance but obviously enjoyed seeing us, turned out it was there 50 year anniversary so they had come for a walk to celebrate, we took that as good luck!

Being adults 😂🤷‍♀️

We also passed a young lad who started to video us, I realised he must have been on the phone to someone in icolation and trying to cheer them up, so I waved and blew a kiss. He was to far away to say much but I could here him trying to explain that we where getting married.

We got so many (far away) cheers or congratulations, I think people where happy to see something positive, I’m not sure if they knew it was real or not, our photographer had to shout across that yes, it is!

Only once did a social distance rule get broken….. nobody told a posh looking dog 😂 he decided to have a close by sniff.

Dress reveal from.6ft away…. I had to sort , tie and carry my own hence the creases because nobody could come close apart from the groom. Who couldnt see me.. remember you could go into homes at this point just try keep distancing (this was the elbow bump time)

However walking past closed shops, people looking out behind glass , home by 2.15 –

You couldnt make this up!

Using gloves and sanitizer to eat since we couldnt handwash

Having a honeymoon in lockdown is…. interesting. I can 100% say, if anyone deserves a holiday at the end of this, it’s my husband! Because…. well probably end up cleaning the house Haha / and counting Tesco’s as a date .

I think my face sums it all up.

So heres to a week of TV, trying not to worry about my own business, trying not to go insane and just honestly hoping everyone stays heathy!

What I can say is, nothing matters – and for that I’ll forever love my weird and wonderful day! – my creased dress, rushed hair, chipped nails, nothing MATTERED.

You realise the core of the day, and all I wanted was to get down that isle! Gone are the stupid petty worrys of streaky tans and rediculas seating charts and lipgloss colours – NOTHING MATTERS, the little stuff is GONE.

And honestly that, that I will keep, that I do wish upon every 2020 bride. Because it wasnt about my guests or “the gram” or keeping anyone happy, and there was something seriously brilliant – and I can highly recommend that silver lining!


and I cant believe I’m a wife! We look forward to our wedding !

❤ a side note. I’ve since seen my husband go to work every day as a key worker, and I couldnt be more scared, proud and glad for our weird chance –

Life has since moved on, were now both key workers since hairdressing and weddings have…. halted. I never thought that would happen. It’s made me even happier we took our weird and wonderful day! And that I’m a wife, I simply dont know when I’d have got my chance like so many of my clients (I’m a bridal hair artist by trade)

At the time, yes we could enter eachothers homes, it seems crazy now – I’m glad we where so sensible and honestly I still giggle at spraying my photographer with dettol, but I have to say I dont regret a single thing . I’m so glad we grabbed our chance!

Hair by myself

Photography – pink Photographics

Bouquet – Charlotte laurie designs

Have you factored in your suppliers !?

Uncategorised Posted on Sun, February 16, 2020 13:58:57

Sure you’ve thought about gran, auntie jean and high chair for baby joe – but what about the suppliers on their feet all day long. The ones on their feet all day, away from family and making your day run smooth…. should you look after them? I mean – you’ve paid them…. right?

Right. Of course! They are doing a job! So it’s not crazy that a handful of people simply ‘ignore’ the ‘staff’ around them; however especially small, self employed lot. – no boss is letting them have a break!


IT IS A DEMANDING DAY, without realising they will skip meals to make it special, so how can you help? Or how should you?

So really its up to you but the better fed, watered and happier your supplier ; the better the work – and after all! We are all humans! (Its nice to be nice ) but this is all optional (unless it’s in their contract!)

I can’t let a random bloke come in a check my boiler without offering him a drink for 10 minutes , never mind have a photographer who I’ve met many times be around my family for 10 hours without all the food and drink!

So who should you factor in, and when?


Hair / makeup /photographer/ videographer are the most common ; consider simply getting extra nibbles and water bottles/ coffee cups (especially in hotel rooms!)


Photographer / videographer are most common to “stay around ” with no breaks. Also consider any entertainment, factor in for any meals (they may wish to eat out the way)

My advice would be think of yourself as that persons employer for the day, keep them well! If they have been with you for longer than 4 hours and you are eating, FEED THEM! if your thirsty, they are. This all sounds really obvious – but honestly I hear some serious horror storys!


PHOTOGRAPHERS GETTING SERIOUS SUN BURN DISPITE SEEING 3/4 PEOPLE WITH SUNSCREEN! and *PREGNANT* photographers husbands having to deliver food to keep them safe!

At my sisters wedding I wasnt sure what she had planned, so I made each supplier a canvas bag that I personalised and filled it with treats! Okay, I hit poundland! – it was mainly lucozade , Jammy Dodgers and crisps but guess what!? – I caught them snacking about 5 times giggling like kids! Obviously like almost all suppliers they had a hot meal put into the contract! But it was nice they had the option to pick between! It couldn’t have cost more than £15! (£20 with the bags!) Betweeen all the maids , hair , makeup and photography And I gave personalised bags to hair and makeup too!

Consider a small thankyou gift – everything from a small bottle of water and a chocolate bar to keep the supplier going to a candle and a thankyou card . – it honestly doesn’t have to cost alot! I’ve been both a supplier and a bride I can tell you honestly! It’s the THOUGHT!

I suppose my point is, even if your low on cash, time, space and food! Go old school- a adorable pack up will make anyone smile! – put a ice bucket full of water and a few beers backstage for the band! A extra box of pastry for your morning crew ! – it’s not all big or expensive; little gifts go a LONG way!

It’s not all big or expensive.

Just make sure they are fed, watered and thought about!

*we are only human!

So how to put this into practice? What and how have we factored in our suppliers?

I’ve factored in hair , makeup and photographers for breakfast (snacks) and bubbles toasts for morning prep (that included more food, more paper plates and glasses)

Weve added extra drinks for each lot of drinks, so call us crazy (crazy) but when we drink, they drink…. yes…. even …. THE BAR! (Told you) welcome drinks , toast drinks, yup. It’s not exact – but assuming my 4 year old nefew doesnt suddenly get a taste for pimms and lemonade. Weve rounded up so theres enough!

When we drink our suppliers drink, it’s not an exact science but round up!

Yes even the bar! (No we arnt rich, weve just used small self employed buisnesses and we appreciate them totally!)

Gifts and cards. This ones hard, it’s a small , budget DIY wedding. weve hand made small thankyou notes. (Sad acts!) Its not much but some suppliers weve had more time with than others, some are their for longer. All will be offered food and drink. But we simply dont have the money to shower gifts on everyone (such is life ) but I know from experience- a thankyou card makes me SQUEAL!

If all the other tips feel over kill and your counting your Penny’s never underestimate the power of a simple card!

And lastly, food. Its obviously. If we eat. They do!

(Again not made of money, were simply getting a dominoes pizza sent out ! )

If your hungry, they are. Paid or not! Its awkward to ask! Feed the humans.

You never know what day they are having!
Or get the kids involved beforehand and hand them out on the day. Its BEYOND cute. Gives the kids a job. Low cost and honestly, no follow up!

I hope this has helped.

I suppose, at the end of this all . You have paid these humans! Theres no NEED to thank or do anything extra for anyone- and theres zero judgement or expectation, this blogs just to help give ideas on HOW to factor in, think and be thoughtful- at the end of it all, its absolutely your call! Your priorities and were all different! I just wanted to start a conversation of the very basics, the reality is, a few extra breakfast bars for a hard working photographer…. it wont break the bank

But the truth. We forget ! Hence…. the blog!

Either way….. enjoy!


Tips for Anxious brides and a smoother wedding morning

Uncategorised Posted on Wed, February 05, 2020 11:03:19

By Plaits And Pin Curls – Wedding Hair Stylist,

I’ve experienced countless wedding mornings, and these are the tricks I have picked up time after time! 4 simple steps to a smoother less stressful morning, and the trick?

it starts the week before….
Tips for Anxious brides and a smoother wedding morning

1- Start the day/night before don’t skip meals ,medication and stay up all night I know its all tempting but you’ve a very full day ahead of you try get your 3 meals in, and home for a reasonable time so you can get the jobs that need doing done leaving tomorrow less stressful
Some to consider

– Your hair washed and dried (legs/shaving/personal care/)
– Make sure you’ve got fresh milk/bread/tea/something easy on your stomach for tomorrow like rich tea or ginger tea
– You may not sleep but leave time to simply RELAX, nod off to a film, mediate, and read!
– Make sure your phone is charged, turn it off early!
– Consider lavender pillow spray (TEST IT AND ANY NEW PRODUCTS IN ADVANCE!) (more…)

Engagment Shoots!

Pre Wedding Posted on Fri, May 03, 2019 18:19:16

So. If you follow me you may have seen a rather exciting announcement! Yes! He FINALLY put a (gorgeous!) Ring on it (*squeels)

And typically were not really doing anything to traditional!

This for us started with an engagement shoot! Now I am fortunate, being ‘in the biz’ (wedding hair specialist) I know how thing tend to go and already know who I’d love to supply at our big day ,however obviously this is still all new to me and I’m ABSOLUTELY not used to being on the lens side of the camera!

I’m hoping by blogging about engagement shoots I can help calm some nerves , give some tips and let you know what your in for!!

So here’s my just haves

1)So first things first. Have a date/venue booked! You may as well utilise your time and take some shots with a ‘save the date ‘ type sign (whatever floats your boat!) Then…. failing ideas for invites your all set – it also means you can make sure your photographer is avalible and book the same human for your engagement shoot and wedding day. (Building a friendship!)

2) check out locations, outside is a risk but you can’t argue it’s normal free or cheaper and the views are mostly better, at the time rain is awful but don’t let it put you off totally it can make some pretty great shots – ( ** do check you’ve got permission to be on any land! ) Think about back drop, colours , theames and feels! For me I stumbled onto a farm! And the back drops where crazy, hay in one direction, feilds in another and huge industrial type backdrops for me I liked the range of options, space and that there was options to shelter and no real reason for random humans to interrupt (we did get the odd confused farmer and a baby lamb but that was ADORABLE!)

3) have a few ideas up your sleeve, So really your photographer should take over but that can make everything look forced, have a look and think about what shots you’d like (e.g.. a close up lovey kiss or a full length of you laughing!?) Then your not all just stood around feeling unsure , you’ve got to lead a little especially if your strangers you photographer won’t know by looking how into PDA’s you are. I’ll cover this more but do concider what makes you both feel relaxed/silly/romantic depending on the outcome you want….and try to do that!

4) expect your face to hurt. Lots of smiles (*take extra lip stuff and water and mints! dry mouth is a THING after half a hour of smile poses and kissing !) I felt unsure in timings but a hour was more than enough for us! Seriously, I was knackered!

5) don’t feel you HAVE to do anything. If your not big on kissing for the camera but love scrabble then play scrabble in a pretty park! If you are camera shy but huge foodies bake a cake or have a good food fight! Whatever takes your mind off the camera! Now obviously I’m in the right biz (wedding hair) I’m thankful I’ve lots of great connections so I could put together something that’s perhaps not “the norm” but to be honest we in our 5 year relationship have NEVER gone to the woods and piggybacked eachother…. So the thought of doing that for a shoot felt odd!

However I am on set ALOT for my job! Styling hair for mags or clothing brand ect and we LOVE movies! I’ve also wanted to get Tom a delorean since we met , I looked into renting one many times for various occations but thanks to a bit of saving up i was finally able too!

And it was great to have a prop to get dressed up- We’re not a overly PDA couple – and I’m always for fun and unique over most things. So for us it worked. And it was really nice for me to do something we both like, but back to the future is one of Tom’s all time fave films! (Don’t worry I’ll be getting my revenge by sneaking alot of Disney into the wedding *evil laugh*!)

And i wanted to do something special for him!

But what’s Tom’s top tips? From Tom (male opinion! )

1) dress in something that’s comfortable, but add colour or your own style – we had alot of dark backdrops so as it happened my light jacket worked well and tied in with our theame.*

2) there are times you may feel like a supporting role, there’s lots of ring close ups ; I was glad to have a prop that was more my style rather than just stood in the woods looking awkward (I got to stand next to a cool car and look awkward ) it gave me something to focus on and work around !

3) it’s only awkward if you don’t loosen up , Lauren asked for photos with some movement just to relax us – we jumped in the air and pulled faces even if that’s not the look you want, it’s worth starting with something that will just limber you up to having a camera in your face

4) I’d reccomend props if I had to do it again, whatever your into – if that’s a pet or picnic or whatever you like it’s not so focused on what your face is doing.

So this is how I worked out what to do

1) created a budget (and asked my photographer if engagement shoots where part of the package, turns out they commonly are!)

2) got avalible dates from me, TOM and our photographer Frankie (concider mid week in the daytime , the lighting is better and of your using a public space there’s less lightly to be photobombers!)

3) had a look online and started to get an idea of what I did and didn’t want from a shoot, looked it over with Tom – we came up with a % system! For us it’s was 60%fun! 30% romantic PDA 10% randomly epic

4) venue search now your armed with possible dates and a feel for what you want – get permission! Work out if there’s any costs and how it fits with the look you want (does chilled out work in a castle?)

5) book/make/order any props – questions to ask are usually cost, times avalible, how long for /set up/take down ,insurance , will it fit , can it be outside in the rain? Ect…. Don’t be afraid to ask if it’s mid week – is it any cheaper?

6) outfits- be you!

7) polish that ring up!

8) keep calm, smile, have fun! And enjoy – try everything , you won’t see the bad photos so who cares! A good photographer will only send the winners anyway! … well unless you happen to be really good friends with the Photographer and she send winners like this ….

Have Fun, Be You and ENJOY!

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Laurens Jacket – Sammy Lea Retro Emporium on facebook, shes also on etsy!

Laurens dress –

Toms Jacket –

Car – from Starcar hire

Gift of a wedding

Wedding Hair Blog Posted on Wed, August 30, 2017 21:39:01

Last month I put my name forward to a local charity called ‘Gift of a wedding’ an amazing organisation that helps give a dream wedding to people with a terminal illness where they have little time and funds to plan their special day.

Companies and suppliers offer to help with various acts of kindness, to make the day special; and it was something I really wanted to support.

However I was nervous ….yes I know!
That sounds so odd, it’s not MY wedding day!
I’ve done countless brides hair, it’s become second nature.

But I think I wasn’t quite sure what to expect, and I think that’s what stopped me from putting my name forward in the past.

So I wanted to write this to show my experience, in hope that it would encourage others to take part too!

So for this particular charity (and I expect in most cases, because of the delicate nature of the job and time issues) you don’t get much notice.
‘Gift of a wedding’ post on Facebook to ask for help just a few weeks before the big day, and they will post a general location, so it’s great you can have a basic idea of travel time and the date before you get in touch.

*saves wasting time, another fear I had!

You need to have your insurance info on hand really, have it ready to go!

Once that’s been sorted I received a contract type form, most of the info didn’t apply to me, but it was little things to keep the day running smoothly, and lots of common sense, I’m not so confident in reading (dyslexia) but it wasn’t scary!
I liked that they reminded you to keep positive and kept a happy vibe, it set the tone!

I was then put in touch with the bride and groom, the company were fantastic at telling me who to contact (in this case, it was the groom, not the norm for wedding hair, but they explained that the bride was having a lot of hospital appointments,
again i didn’t want to call at a bad time, so it was thoughtful!)

We swapped a few texts (as trials were not possible at such notice!) and I arranged a time and location…

On the day, I was nervous driving, it was hard not having had a trial or much of a chat, so I just hoped the bride was happy with her hair on the day!

But the atmosphere was lovely, it was a gorgeous giggly morning and her best friend was just as Disney obsessed as me (bonus!) there were a few other suppliers on board making her morning special, a MUA, Photographer and videographer.

I don’t think it really felt like anything other than any other wedding morning until later that night, I couldn’t help feeling happy and a little overwhelmed by the help what was given, photography especially, it’s all day and all night with days of editing!

It was so kind, it definitely has the side effect of leaving you with a little glow!

Lets face it if you’re in this job, making brides happy makes you happy (or you’re in the wrong job!). The added bonus of helping a charity and a bride in need was something that was important to me.
I had my own reasons for helping out, but I also think sometimes you can forget that your job does in fact make a difference to someone’s day!

I think I forget that it can not only take pressure off what most women find a stressful morning but it also reminds you why you love what you do.

Now I’m by no means posting this for a reaction, it’s not about that, and its definitely not the reason to do something like this.
I’m posting this to give insight to other suppliers, to understand a situation you’re not used to…no trials, no contact, not even knowing the brides name or exact location until a few days before, it was very daunting!

It was a mixed bag of emotions, but now I know what to expect it’s something I look forward to volunteering for again!
I do feel it’s the job of the suppliers to keep the vibe of the room happy (it’s a pretty big day after all!) but I feel that’s the same with any morning.

It was a little hard just turning up and introducing yourself, then just trying to get the hair perfect on the first try!
But it definitely gives you confidence in your abilities when the bride is happy!
It felt precious.

I can definitely recommend Gift of a wedding as a charity to support and enjoying your job for the day on a whole new level. (and it not feeling like work!)

Sign up! Give it a go! Don’t be nervous!
You will be helping a family build memories to treasure forever X

If you can’t help with supplies then why not make a donation to
Gift of a wedding

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