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How to budget…. using the list of 5

Uncategorised Posted on Mon, February 24, 2020 19:45:57

So I see this alot, and it’s a big headache for alot of suppliers! Brides buying what seems to be, “the little stuff” and then struggling with the big stuff – and wondering how they got to that point.

WE ALL HAVE DIFFERENT PRIORITIES, START WITH WORKING OUT YOURS

THE LIST OF FIVE WILL SAVE YOU!

So the best way to do it, is to work out what’s most important, and the best way to do that is a activity called….. the list of five!

So how to do it?

Simply sit with a paper and pen, and put down the top 5 things that are important to you, you do this each , individually without talking or discussing!

The other rules are you cant “round things up” ; ‘look nice’ isnt one, you have to break things down – you may pick

  1. Hair
  2. Makeup
  3. Dress
  4. Shoes
  5. Jewellery

However, that would not leave you alot, and youd have to rely that your partner has covered everything else (remember, no chatting!)

YOU CANT TALK, YOU PICK 5 THINGS EACH , SEPARATE

YOU SOON WORK OUT WHATS IMPORTANT, ND ITS NOT ALL YOU!

I soon realised it’s not all me (yes, I too started out selfish, I’m not afraid to say so! )

Im also not afraid to say my list is still quite central to me, I want a nice dress! I want to look and feel nice, and that’s okay! Dont feel bad – but I realised shoes and jewelry wasnt worth risking tom had thought of the venue and photographer, they where to important to risk!

Share your list with eachother ! – and that’s what you spend/book FIRST . Simple! , if you’ve doubled up on anything, book that as one of your FIRST things (if possible)

SHARE YOUR LIST WITH EACHOTHER, WHATEVER IS ON IT, THATS WHAT YOU BOOK & PAY FOR FIRST!

It’s what your aloud to worry over, everything else isnt priority!

I soon realised table gifts and personalised hangers , these arnt things I’ll treasure forever.

Sure if I have the money AT THE END, why not.

But the list of 5 gave me and tom the opportunity to know where our budget should MAINLY be spent, what’s important and has settled alot of issues before they started – it’s also let me deligate!

I’ve not even brought my own wedding shoes! A friend offered. And I thought, hay! It’s not on my list, why stress!

Best thing ever, I didnt even see them

We all can work out what we can afford to spend (or can’t) it’s where to start that I struggled with!

It also split the to-do list in half, tom booked and sorted the bar and entertainment because that was important to him, and I sorted everything on my list, it was lovely he had clear jobs and felt involved!

I CAN’T RECOMMEND IT ENOUGH

Its a good conversation to have!

I hope this has helped! enjoy your open money chat-

Lauren from www.plaitsandpincurls.co.uk



Have you factored in your suppliers !?

Uncategorised Posted on Sun, February 16, 2020 13:58:57

Sure you’ve thought about gran, auntie jean and high chair for baby joe – but what about the suppliers on their feet all day long. The ones on their feet all day, away form family and making your day run smooth…. should you look after them? I mean – you’ve paid them…. right?

Right. Of course! They are doing a job! So it’s not crazy that a handful of people simply ‘ignore’ the ‘staff’ around them; however especially small, self employed lot. – no boss is letting them have a break!

NO BOSS IS LETTING THEM HAVE A BREAK, YOU ARE THE BOSS! AND YOUR WORKING THEM PRETTY HARD

IT IS A DEMANDING DAY!

So really its up to you but the better fed, watered and happier your supplier ; the better the work – and after all! We are all humans! (Its nice to be nice )

I can’t let a random bloke come in a check my boiler without offering him a drink for 10 minutes , never mind have a photographer who I’ve met many times be around my family for 10 hours without all the food and drink!

So who should you factor in, and when?

THE MORNING (PREP)

Hair / makeup /photographer/ videographer are the most common ; consider simply getting extra nibbles and water bottles/ coffee cups (especially in hotel rooms!)

THE WEDDING

Photographer / videographer are most common to “stay around ” with no breaks. Also consider any entertainment, factor I’m for any meals (they may wish to eat out the way)

My advice would be think of yourself as that persons employer for the day, keep them well! If they have been with you for longer than 4 hours and you are eating, FEED THEM! if your thirsty, they are. This all sounds really obvious – but honestly I hear so serious horror storys!

THIS ALL SEEMS REALLY OBVIOUS BUT IVE HEARD SOME SERIOUS HORROR STORYS , 14 HOUR WEDDINGS NOT A OFFER OF FOOD OR DRINK!

PHOTOGRAPHERS GETTING SERIOUS SUN BURN DISPITE SEEING 3/4 PEOPLE WITH SUNSCREEN!

At my sisters wedding I wasnt sure what she had planned, so I made each supplier a canvas bag that I personalised and filled it with treats! Okay, I hit poundland! – it was mainly lucozade , Jammy Dodgers and crisps but guess what!? – I caught them snacking about 5 times giggling like kids! Obviously like almost all suppliers they had a hot meal put into the contract! But it was nice they had the option to pick between! It couldn’t have cost more than £15! (£20 with the bags!) And I gave personalised bags to hair and makeup too!

Consider a small thankyou gift – everything from a small bottle of water and a chocolate bar to keep the supplier going to a candle and a thankyou card . – it honestly doesn’t have to cost alot! I’ve been both a supplier and a bride I can tell you honestly! It’s the THOUGHT!

I suppose my point is, even if your low on cash, time, space and food! Go old school- a adorable pack up will make anyone smile! – put a ice bucket full of water and a few beers backstage for the band! A extra box of pastry for your morning crew ! – it’s not all big or expensive; little gifts go a LONG way!

It’s not all big or expensive.

Just make sure they are fed, watered and thought about!

*we are only human!

So how to put this into practice? What and how have we factored in our suppliers?

I’ve factored in hair , makeup and photographers for breakfast (snacks) and bubbles toasts for morning prep (that included more food, more paper plates and glasses)

Weve added extra drinks for each lot of drinks, so call us crazy (crazy) but when we drink, they drink…. yes…. even …. THE BAR! (Told you) welcome drinks , toast drinks, yup. It’s not exact – but assuming my 4 year old nefew doesnt suddenly get a taste for pimms and lemonade. Weve rounded up so theres enough!

Gifts and cards. This ones hard, it’s a small , budget DIY wedding. weve hand made small thankyou notes. (Sad acts!) Its not much but some suppliers weve had more time with than others, some are their for longer. All will be offered food and drink. But we simply dont have the money to shower gifts on everyone (such is life ) but I know from experience- a thankyou card makes me SQUEAL!

If all the other tips feel over kill and your counting your Penny’s never underestimate the power of a simple card!

And lastly, food. Its obviously. If we eat. They do!

If your hungry, they are. Paid or not! Its awkward to ask! Feed the humans.

You never know what day they are having!
Or get the kids involved beforehand and hand them out on the day. Its BEYOND cute. Gives the kids a job. Low cost and honestly, no follow up!

I hope this has helped.

I suppose, at the end of this all . You have paid these humans! Theres no NEED to thank or do anything extra for anyone- and theres zero judgement or expectation, this blogs just to help give ideas on HOW to factor in, think and be thoughtful- at the end of it all, its absolutely your call! Your priorities and were all different! I just wanted to start a conversation of the very basics, the reality is, a few extra breakfast bars for a hard working photographer…. it wont break the bank

But the truth. We forget ! Hence…. the blog!

Either way….. enjoy!

Lauren. Www.plaitsandpincurls.co.uk



Tips for Anxious brides and a smoother wedding morning

Uncategorised Posted on Wed, February 05, 2020 11:03:19

By Plaits And Pin Curls – Wedding Hair Stylist,

I’ve experienced countless wedding mornings, and these are the tricks I have picked up time after time! 4 simple steps to a smoother less stressful morning, and the trick?

it starts the week before….
Tips for Anxious brides and a smoother wedding morning


1- Start the day/night before don’t skip meals ,medication and stay up all night I know its all tempting but you’ve a very full day ahead of you try get your 3 meals in, and home for a reasonable time so you can get the jobs that need doing done leaving tomorrow less stressful
Some to consider


– Your hair washed and dried (legs/shaving/personal care/)
– Make sure you’ve got fresh milk/bread/tea/something easy on your stomach for tomorrow like rich tea or ginger tea
– Paint your nails (PLEASE DON’T DO THIS ON YOUR WEDDING DAY!)
– You may not sleep but leave time to simply RELAX, nod off to a film, mediate, and read!
– Make sure your phone is charged, turn it off early!
– Consider lavender pillow spray (TEST IT AND ANY NEW PRODUCTS IN ADVANCE!) (more…)



Engagment Shoots!

Pre Wedding Posted on Fri, May 03, 2019 18:19:16

So. If you follow me you may have seen a rather exciting announcement! Yes! He FINALLY put a (gorgeous!) Ring on it (*squeels)

And typically were not really doing anything to traditional!

This for us started with an engagement shoot! Now I am fortunate, being ‘in the biz’ (wedding hair specialist) I know how thing tend to go and already know who I’d love to supply at our big day ,however obviously this is still all new to me and I’m ABSOLUTELY not used to being on the lens side of the camera!

I’m hoping by blogging about engagement shoots I can help calm some nerves , give some tips and let you know what your in for!!

So here’s my just haves

1)So first things first. Have a date/venue booked! You may as well utilise your time and take some shots with a ‘save the date ‘ type sign (whatever floats your boat!) Then…. failing ideas for invites your all set – it also means you can make sure your photographer is avalible and book the same human for your engagement shoot and wedding day. (Building a friendship!)

2) check out locations, outside is a risk but you can’t argue it’s normal free or cheaper and the views are mostly better, at the time rain is awful but don’t let it put you off totally it can make some pretty great shots – ( ** do check you’ve got permission to be on any land! ) Think about back drop, colours , theames and feels! For me I stumbled onto a farm! And the back drops where crazy, hay in one direction, feilds in another and huge industrial type backdrops for me I liked the range of options, space and that there was options to shelter and no real reason for random humans to interrupt (we did get the odd confused farmer and a baby lamb but that was ADORABLE!)

3) have a few ideas up your sleeve, So really your photographer should take over but that can make everything look forced, have a look and think about what shots you’d like (e.g.. a close up lovey kiss or a full length of you laughing!?) Then your not all just stood around feeling unsure , you’ve got to lead a little especially if your strangers you photographer won’t know by looking how into PDA’s you are. I’ll cover this more but do concider what makes you both feel relaxed/silly/romantic depending on the outcome you want….and try to do that!

4) expect your face to hurt. Lots of smiles (*take extra lip stuff and water and mints! dry mouth is a THING after half a hour of smile poses and kissing !) I felt unsure in timings but a hour was more than enough for us! Seriously, I was knackered!

5) don’t feel you HAVE to do anything. If your not big on kissing for the camera but love scrabble then play scrabble in a pretty park! If you are camera shy but huge foodies bake a cake or have a good food fight! Whatever takes your mind off the camera! Now obviously I’m in the right biz (wedding hair) I’m thankful I’ve lots of great connections so I could put together something that’s perhaps not “the norm” but to be honest we in our 5 year relationship have NEVER gone to the woods and piggybacked eachother…. So the thought of doing that for a shoot felt odd!

However I am on set ALOT for my job! Styling hair for mags or clothing brand ect and we LOVE movies! I’ve also wanted to get Tom a delorean since we met , I looked into renting one many times for various occations but thanks to a bit of saving up i was finally able too!

And it was great to have a prop to get dressed up- We’re not a overly PDA couple – and I’m always for fun and unique over most things. So for us it worked. And it was really nice for me to do something we both like, but back to the future is one of Tom’s all time fave films! (Don’t worry I’ll be getting my revenge by sneaking alot of Disney into the wedding *evil laugh*!)

And i wanted to do something special for him!

But what’s Tom’s top tips? From Tom (male opinion! )

1) dress in something that’s comfortable, but add colour or your own style – we had alot of dark backdrops so as it happened my light jacket worked well and tied in with our theame.*

2) there are times you may feel like a supporting role, there’s lots of ring close ups ; I was glad to have a prop that was more my style rather than just stood in the woods looking awkward (I got to stand next to a cool car and look awkward ) it gave me something to focus on and work around !

3) it’s only awkward if you don’t loosen up , Lauren asked for photos with some movement just to relax us – we jumped in the air and pulled faces even if that’s not the look you want, it’s worth starting with something that will just limber you up to having a camera in your face

4) I’d reccomend props if I had to do it again, whatever your into – if that’s a pet or picnic or whatever you like it’s not so focused on what your face is doing.

So this is how I worked out what to do

1) created a budget (and asked my photographer if engagement shoots where part of the package, turns out they commonly are!)

2) got avalible dates from me, TOM and our photographer Frankie (concider mid week in the daytime , the lighting is better and of your using a public space there’s less lightly to be photobombers!)

3) had a look online and started to get an idea of what I did and didn’t want from a shoot, looked it over with Tom – we came up with a % system! For us it’s was 60%fun! 30% romantic PDA 10% randomly epic

4) venue search now your armed with possible dates and a feel for what you want – get permission! Work out if there’s any costs and how it fits with the look you want (does chilled out work in a castle?)

5) book/make/order any props – questions to ask are usually cost, times avalible, how long for /set up/take down ,insurance , will it fit , can it be outside in the rain? Ect…. Don’t be afraid to ask if it’s mid week – is it any cheaper?

6) outfits- be you!

7) polish that ring up!

8) keep calm, smile, have fun! And enjoy – try everything , you won’t see the bad photos so who cares! A good photographer will only send the winners anyway! … well unless you happen to be really good friends with the Photographer and she send winners like this ….

Have Fun, Be You and ENJOY!

involved –

Photography www.pinkphotographics.co.uk

Hair www.plaitsandpincurls.co.uk

Laurens Jacket – Sammy Lea Retro Emporium on facebook, shes also on etsy!

Laurens dress – www.lindybop.com

Toms Jacket – www.asos.com

Car – from Starcar hire



Gift of a wedding

Wedding Hair Blog Posted on Wed, August 30, 2017 21:39:01

Last month I put my name forward to a local charity called ‘Gift of a wedding’ an amazing organisation that helps give a dream wedding to people with a terminal illness where they have little time and funds to plan their special day.

Companies and suppliers offer to help with various acts of kindness, to make the day special; and it was something I really wanted to support.

However I was nervous ….yes I know!
That sounds so odd, it’s not MY wedding day!
I’ve done countless brides hair, it’s become second nature.

But I think I wasn’t quite sure what to expect, and I think that’s what stopped me from putting my name forward in the past.

So I wanted to write this to show my experience, in hope that it would encourage others to take part too!

So for this particular charity (and I expect in most cases, because of the delicate nature of the job and time issues) you don’t get much notice.
‘Gift of a wedding’ post on Facebook to ask for help just a few weeks before the big day, and they will post a general location, so it’s great you can have a basic idea of travel time and the date before you get in touch.

*saves wasting time, another fear I had!

You need to have your insurance info on hand really, have it ready to go!

Once that’s been sorted I received a contract type form, most of the info didn’t apply to me, but it was little things to keep the day running smoothly, and lots of common sense, I’m not so confident in reading (dyslexia) but it wasn’t scary!
I liked that they reminded you to keep positive and kept a happy vibe, it set the tone!

I was then put in touch with the bride and groom, the company were fantastic at telling me who to contact (in this case, it was the groom, not the norm for wedding hair, but they explained that the bride was having a lot of hospital appointments,
again i didn’t want to call at a bad time, so it was thoughtful!)

We swapped a few texts (as trials were not possible at such notice!) and I arranged a time and location…

On the day, I was nervous driving, it was hard not having had a trial or much of a chat, so I just hoped the bride was happy with her hair on the day!

But the atmosphere was lovely, it was a gorgeous giggly morning and her best friend was just as Disney obsessed as me (bonus!) there were a few other suppliers on board making her morning special, a MUA, Photographer and videographer.

I don’t think it really felt like anything other than any other wedding morning until later that night, I couldn’t help feeling happy and a little overwhelmed by the help what was given, photography especially, it’s all day and all night with days of editing!

It was so kind, it definitely has the side effect of leaving you with a little glow!

Lets face it if you’re in this job, making brides happy makes you happy (or you’re in the wrong job!). The added bonus of helping a charity and a bride in need was something that was important to me.
I had my own reasons for helping out, but I also think sometimes you can forget that your job does in fact make a difference to someone’s day!

I think I forget that it can not only take pressure off what most women find a stressful morning but it also reminds you why you love what you do.

Now I’m by no means posting this for a reaction, it’s not about that, and its definitely not the reason to do something like this.
I’m posting this to give insight to other suppliers, to understand a situation you’re not used to…no trials, no contact, not even knowing the brides name or exact location until a few days before, it was very daunting!

It was a mixed bag of emotions, but now I know what to expect it’s something I look forward to volunteering for again!
I do feel it’s the job of the suppliers to keep the vibe of the room happy (it’s a pretty big day after all!) but I feel that’s the same with any morning.

It was a little hard just turning up and introducing yourself, then just trying to get the hair perfect on the first try!
But it definitely gives you confidence in your abilities when the bride is happy!
It felt precious.

I can definitely recommend Gift of a wedding as a charity to support and enjoying your job for the day on a whole new level. (and it not feeling like work!)

Sign up! Give it a go! Don’t be nervous!
You will be helping a family build memories to treasure forever X

If you can’t help with supplies then why not make a donation to
Gift of a wedding

http://giftofawedding.org/

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